I am currently trying to save some money for an upcoming trip.
This is a trip to Las Vegas and for some reason I have some guilt associated with the gambling part of it. I had no trouble shelling out the dough for the airline ticket. But now I need some cash for the super fun stuff.
Somewhere along the line my financial guru helped to make me see the light.
I pretty much make the same amount of money each year. It can fluctuate a little depending on how much vacation I take, but basically there are so many work days and so many appointments and there is a limit. Which means if I want to save some extra money….hang on this is the hard part….I have to spend less. What?? Horror!
I am on day 3 of the frugal living savings plan.
I am doing pretty well. It helped that I worked half a day on Saturday. It killed time and I can’t spend money if I am working.
I had the day off and was going to go golfing with my sister. But, it rained. So we went out to lunch and had a couple of drinks and some burgers. It was fun. I know, I know you are saying, “Gyspy Girl Jilly, so far you haven’t saved any money but you have spent some on booze and burgers.” Yes, darlings… I know. But a person cannot be a total hermit or bad things happen. Here is the savings part. Lunch is typically cheaper than dinner. Also, if you drink during the day you get tired and go home and take a nap. Napping is free.
I had made a gigantic vat of chili the night before so that was dinner (again). I putzed around my garden, read a little and then I was bored. I ended up spending $5.99 On Demand to watch an interesting documentary called Tim’s Vermeer. It is produced by Penn and Teller and is interesting if you are at all interested in Vermeer’s paintings (The Girl with the Pearl Earring) or scientific inventions. I liked it for a number of reasons.
- I was a History of Science major in college. That means I like nerdy stuff.
- I had read the book The Girl with the Pearl Earring which was fiction but revolves around Vermeer so I was intrigued.
- Penn and Teller are a part of the telling of the story. They perform in Las Vegas…which is where I am going, and why I am staying at home and saving money. It is a sign!
Then Friday was over.
I worked until 1 pm. Good moods abounded; it was a good Saturday in the office. I bought both a hydrangea and lavender plant on sale. Saved 60%. Planted them. Watched a little tennis and then a little baseball because ‘the sisters’ were at the game and I was trying to catch a glimpse. I might have taken another nap. More chili for dinner. (That’s it! I am up to the gills in chili.)
I found 30 bucks for the trip fund going through my jackets and jeans. Yay! Also found a whole bunch of lip gloss. My lips will stay plump and juicy in the desert. I am prepared.
I watched some free TV and learned how to make pizza on the grill and brisket.
Then Saturday was over.
It’s Sunday. It was raining a bit when I got up but it is looking sunny now. I am writing this story and then need to get some exercise. Will spend some time hanging out on my deck. The flowers are looking good and I have some cozy furniture. It really is peaceful out there. I will probably go out for a little bit. No shopping. Maybe a visit with an old friend.
It wasn’t too bad having a frugal weekend. Actually, I got a lot of good sleep. My house is pretty clean and I don’t have a headache. I don’t know how many days in a row I could do this, but I figure I saved at least a 100 bucks. Yay!
Saving money made me think of my trusted friend and financial advisor who I have mentioned in other stories- I like to think of her as my money shrink.
She has really helped change my life. Part of the reason I am now writing a blog is because I have more peace and calm in my life. Part of that is having a ‘plan’ in case everything goes belly up. I have a plan and it is all under control. That leaves time to write little stories instead of worrying about all of the other stuff.
My relationship with my money shrink is way different than the time I went to a head shrinker. Yes, the one time I went to a head shrinker. That was a totally surreal experience.
I had been talked into going to a head shrinker as part of couple’s therapy. Before our appointment I had to take a quiz. I took it in the car on the way to our favorite Thai restaurant which took about 20 minutes. As we parked, I handed it to my then sweetheart. He said, “Don’t you want to review this before you hand it in?” I said, “I can do that if you want, but my answers will be the same.” I should have known right then how it all would turn out.
It was time for the appointment. I was nervous. We had gotten the results of the quiz back and the results were pretty good.
I met the head shrinker -Frank. I liked him right away.
The sweetheart started the discussion and in about 10 words explained his side of the story.
Then it was my turn. I took a deep breath. Then it all came spilling out it in great detail. I started to cry. Frank handed me a tissue. I said “Thanks” and kept going. I got it all out. (That is the key.)
After a bit, Frank started to give us some therapy. (Without going into too much detail, we were having issues with third parties dictating too much of our relationship.) He started out by saying that he was going to tell us exactly what we should do.
I felt like I had been struck by lightning. I got it. I knew it.
So, Frank went into great detail about what we were going to be doing for the next two weeks. The sweetheart was nodding and agreeing and totally positive. Then Frank asked me what I thought.
I said, “There is no way in hell that I am going to be told what I can or cannot do by another person.”
The sweetheart was giving me the elbow and looking at me with total and complete horror. I think he would have wanted to beat the shit out of me but he is not a violent person. Otherwise I would have been toast.
Frank said, “Exactly!” I passed the test. We went on to discuss how it is ridiculous for a third party to dominate or control a person.
I never made it back to see Frank again. He really helped me though. It has been many years since that happened, but I sometimes think about that day in his office.
To wrap things up… I guess I feel glad that I am in control. I can spend money or save money. I can be alone but not be lonely. I can be with friends who get it. I am in charge and the results are mine.
On day 3 I find myself richer…in many ways.
Wish me luck in Vegas!